I have two brothers, one who lives close to where our father lived in Florida and the other who lives in New Mexico. In the last three years of Dad’s life (he died at home at the age of 98), I served first as a long-distance caregiver, then more directly by staying with him for periods of time. As a long distance caregiver, I had no idea of the time and effort (especially time) that my local brother had spent so Dad could continue to live in his home of over forty years. By staying with Dad in that last year, my other brother and I were able to give my local brother a break. For me it was also a time spent just talking about things that we never brought up when we were younger. Dad was much more reflective and willing to discuss just about anything. That time with just the two of us came to be very special. However, I could also see how difficult it can be for long-term, full-time caregivers to find time for themselves. My two brothers and I were able to work together as a team to respond to Dad’s desire to die at home with his family present. It was not an easy thing to accomplish but was rewarding in many ways. I was very appreciative of the agencies (especially Hospice) and people who helped us, both directly and in terms of honoring our process.